Kids and iPads

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Little A figured out how to download games on his new Lenovo tablet in minutes

5.53am yesterday morning Big A woke me up, talking rapidly like a highly strung bundle of energy.  “Mum, come look at this cool new thing I have found on the iPad!”  No, we are not usually early risers like that.  And yes, we have a bit of a gaming addiction going on in our household.

Growing up we never had computer game like most other kids.  Actually, growing up we didn’t have a lot of toys or stuff.  We had a big chest of drawers full of toys in the living room, and a box full of dress up outfits. (Mum was a fashion designer so she always had a lot of clothes. These were usually adult dress ups and so much fun.)  Our neighbours lived in this huge, spooky mansion.  They had an entire playroom full of toys.  They had shelves full of toys, stacked with all the latest stuff. We loved going to visit to play with their toys.  They even had one of the first computer games in Australia (space invaders) and sometimes they would let us play.  We enjoyed it, but we did not feel jealous.  At least on some level, we understood that these were more toys than any kid really needed.

We were comparatively late to the iPad scene, buying an iPad2 in 2011. I have that same iPad, which has survived despite Big A dropping it and cracking the screen around two years ago. I have been *meaning* to get it fixed but somehow time has gotten away.

This week there were tears.  Big A couldn’t turn on the iPad – the main page was blank apart from the time.  There was no way he could log on.  While we have since solved the problem (what a miracle!), in the interim I decided to splurge and purchase them a tablet each. Yes, one each.  For the grand total of $98 each from JB Hi-Fi (actually less because I got a 5% gift card voucher from the Entertainment Book), I purchased them a Lenovo Tab 3 A7-10 7″ Tablet.  They know me spending money on things like this is very rare, so it was a big moment for them.  They are thrilled.  Thus getting up at 5.53am (in fact he was up much earlier – that was just the time he woke me up).

I am no way affiliated with Lenovo.  In my personal opinion, if you are looking for a cheap tablet for kids this is a great product.  My kids were using it within minutes.  They were impatient for me to sign on with my gmail details. The four-year-old downloaded a game and was playing with it within five minutes (if you were wondering, Little A is not yet at school but has worked out how to type when he wants to search for games online).  It is a sturdy and reliable product, easy to use and is only for Wi-Fi so I don’t need to go and buy a sim card and set up an account.  Did I mention it cost $98?  Well, actually less because I used my Entertainment Book and got a 5% discount on a JB Hi-Fi voucher.

Both of my boys like playing games on tablets and the computer more than I would like them to. Perhaps I could supervise more – I am never really sure what they are playing, although I do know enough that their choices are age appropriate.  They also like watching youtube videos. Why is it that watching videos of other kids playing computer games or with toys is more exciting than playing your own games?  It is a whole different generation.

I am aware that excessive online time is not considered good.  A week or so ago there was an article that went a bit viral (and which I now can’t find – can you?) about how too much screen time is causing psychological problems in children.  In Taiwan, it is illegal for children under two to use iPads. I sort of understand this strict measure, as I have been out in public in Taiwan and too often seen the iPhone or iPad being used as an electronic babysitter.

As a busy single mother, I must say that I am thankful for the electronic babysitting services of the online environment. I wouldn’t be able to write this post, for example, without it. Nor would I be able to cook and clean and put food on the table.  I know there are wonder women out there who have managed to multi-task for years, but I must say this really helps.  I have given up perfectionism and now I am just focusing on realism.

I am, however, aware that Big A (now 7) is quite addicted.  He gets up super early to play online.  He was DEVASTATED when we thought the iPad was broken (since working).  His ideal day is one spent indoors glued to the screen. He begs me to stay at home.  In our previous house, the kids rarely if ever played outdoors.

My approach to this is not to make him wrong about it. I think his excessive retreat into the online world is a coping mechanism.  He had seen a lot of change in recent years, including the separation of his parents.  This is a form of escapism for him, and I suspect he might unravel if I now banned his online world.

Instead, I make sure that I schedule at least one activity out of the home that does not involve a screen and ideally involves people. Often it is going on playdates, or going to church, or cycling or going to a park.  There is always resistance to going out, but when I make it fun I can get him away and make him forget the iPad – at least for a while.

So what is a frugalista to do about all of this technology and the impact on kids?

I don’t have the answers, but here are some suggestions based on my own experiences:

  1. Limiting digital screen playing to dedicated times.  This doesn’t work so much for me, and my ex is actually better at putting rules in place with times. I do, however, use it a bit like a carrot – i.e. they can’t play online until they get dressed and have breakfast of a morning.  They also can’t play online of a night until they do a bit of homework.  Their school doesn’t actually give them ‘homework’, but something, like reading a chapter in a Beast Quest book or doing a drawing, is enough for me.
  2. Avoid technology during meals. I am often bad with this.  When I sit down is often the only time I sit still so my reaction is to grab my phone.  But you do need off-screen time to connect, and the traditional meal together is amazing for instilling family values.  I try to make it a habit of asking my kids about what they have learnt during the day.
  3. Technology is a reality of their future and can be a powerful means for learning.  You could ban it altogether, but you are probably doing them a disservice if you do.  Try to find a way to use it for educational purposes.  Cool Maths Games is pretty good (and free).  Reading Eggs is a bit pricey, but is a quality and well-designed program especially for younger kids. My kids do get bored with it after a while, but they have learnt a lot from it over the years.  Beast Quest is great for young boys (and girls) and encourages them to also read the book series on which it is based.
  4. That said, research indicates that online self-learning for young children is not nearly as powerful time with them.  The bedtime story is still, and probably always be, one of the best ways to raise super smart kids.  The trick here is to encourage them to read themsleves rather than just you reading. My dad used to read one page and then encourage me to read one page.  I was streets ahead of other kids in my reading at school and unsurprisingly loved writing as well. Invest in some good books or, even better, take them to the library.  Beyond reading, take the time to listen to them and answer their questions about their world rather than just being dismissive.  Look up the facts together.  Do maths quizzes in the car.  We sometimes count to one hundred (or more) in Chinese.  The key is to encourage learning as par of life, not just something that is done in the school classroom and to encourage it.
  5. Have rules regarding purchase of games.  I just bought Minecraft pocket edition for Big A.  Or I should say he gave me pocket money and then I used my credit card.  I make them use their pocket money for any games they wish to play.  Mean mummy?  Perhaps.  But they then begin to think about what the cost of it is and whether it is worth it.
  6. Play together with them online.  Once again, this is not an area where I excel as a parent.  But they just love showing me what they are playing, and when I do play with them it is a lot of fun.  By doing this I also get to know what they are doing.
  7. You don’t need the latest and best technology.  You don’t need the latest whiz-bang product.  We don’t  have xbox or anything else snazzy at home.  Less is more – just because your kids have a lot of stuff doesn’t mean they will play with it.
  8. What kids really value is time with you.  At the end of the day what they really value is time with their parents and friends and they will usually choose that over digital games any day.  Seriously.  Yesterday Big A wanted to make cupcakes and he stopped dead in the middle of a game to do that.  This is less about licking the beaters, and more about time together with me.

How do you deal with screen time in your family?  Do you have any frugal tips for the digital age?






  1. I’m pretty relaxed about the amount of time my kids spend in front of a screen. Is it “too much”? Probably. Are they socially well adjusted kids with plenty of friends who do well at school? Yep Do they both also play sport (organised and for fun)? Yep. Do they both also help around the house? Yep – albeit reluctantly, but that’s to be expected! Are they both good readers? Yep, although one likes reading more than the other. So, all things considered, I don’t worry about it too much. And the oldest is rapidly becoming my go-to IT guy – very handy!

    1. I remember back in 2015 ahead of the last Hardcopy weekend when I was stressing about getting my manuscript redrafted that you advised me that a bit of screen time was okay:) I took solace from that.

      Today my kids were on their new tablets for a long time. Then at about 6.00pm they just stopped. They started play fighting each other, then they dragged all the bedding from their room and set up new beds in the living room near the front door. They put their toys to bed, and then they fought with each other a bit more. Giggles and laughter that was so loud. Oh, and then they started jumping off the sofa, which was not so cool. We turned on the computer and listened to their favourite songs on youtube while I made lunches. Interesting to see them self-regulate today. They got bored of just the screen.

  2. Sorry – but one more thing (you’ve clearly touched a nerve!) I’ve recently instigated a new rule – no devices at the kitchen table. This rule also applies to my husband and I, which makes it something of a sacrifice, haha.

    1. Oh, I would find this rule so hard! My sister and her husband are really big on this as well. I somehow manage to always ring at dinner time, and she won’t talk to me.

  3. They’re good tips for children under 10. As they got older I just let my kids go. They’re pretty good about not using devices at the table, etc. I have a Google Play family account, which only costs a few extra dollars a month and gives them access to most of my downloads. I buy them gift cards for their own purchases (Google for Mr Twin and iTunes for Miss Twin).

    1. Thanks. I need to investigate Google Play – first game they have bought this time but I suspect there will be more. The interesting thing to watch was how the kids self regulate. The day afer I wrote this they spent several hours playing games – then decided to have mock battles and then moved all their bedding to the front living room and pretended to be camping. Not a tablet in sight.

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